Don't worry, I got you!
This is all very normal, by the way. Feeling overwhelmed by all the unfamiliar terms is something I remember well when I first started as an escort, and this is one of those times when Google just doesn't help that much.
Over the course of this series, I'll walk you through all of the basic information I think you need to get started on the right foot.
Please note: I don't speak for all workers, and things aren't 100% the same across every platform or with every worker. I can only speak to what I know and what I've experienced as some of the more widely recognised terminology.
So, let's start off the series with some of the basic and most common acronyms and terms you're likely to come across almost straight away.
Used to describe a more personal, intimate style of experience that is generally less formal or transactional in feel. What a GFE includes can vary considerably between workers, so don't assume that everyone offering it means exactly the same thing.
Used to describe an experience that is more fantasy- or fetish-oriented. The exact meaning varies between workers, and may refer to a particular style of experience or additional niche offerings.
An industry acronym referring to oral sex without a condom.
An industry acronym referring to ejaculation in the mouth.
An industry acronym referring to ejaculation on the face.
An industry acronym referring to ejaculation on the breasts/chest.
This is an interesting one, and probably one of the more controversial terms you'll come across.
ROAR essentially means that the worker reserves the right to refuse a booking or admission, for any reason. However, the way the term is used can vary, and I've encountered it being used in discussions around client selection, including racial preferences most commonly.
Because this is one of those terms where context really matters, don't automatically assume you know what a particular worker means by it. If you're unsure, ask.
A three-person booking involving two men and one woman, where the two men are also willing to engage with each other.
A three-person booking involving two men and one woman, where the two men are not willing to engage with each other.
A three-person booking involving two women and one man, where the two women are willing to engage with each other.
A booking involving three people who all engage with each other.
A booking involving two women. The exact arrangement can vary between workers, but this typiccally will mean the two ladies do not engage with each other, so again, check the individual advert rather than assuming.
You go to the location where the worker is operating from.
The worker travels to your location.
And that's just a tiny sample of the many, many terms and acronyms you might come across.
But it's a good starting point.
And honestly, if you've made it this far and you're thinking “Jesus, there are a lot of rules to this” — don't panic. \ud83d\ude02
Once you understand the basic terminology, everything becomes a lot less intimidating.
Next up: how to contact a lady, what questions you should actually ask, and — perhaps more importantly — what you probably shouldn't ask.
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While I can't speak for all workers, I would much rather have you ask the questions than make an assumption that could make things uncomfortable further down the line.
Some people take it to the extreme and ask 50 questions in a row, purely out of nerves or lack of knowledge. In my experience, these bookings can actually be the hardest — not because the client is necessarily difficult, but because they've overthought everything so much that it becomes difficult to let the booking flow naturally.
With that in mind, here are some of the things I wish clients knew before making a booking with me because, well, it really would make both our lives a little easier.
With that in mind, here are some of the things that I wish clients knew before making a booking with me, beacause, well, it really would make both our lives so much easier.
1. You are not expected to be good in bed
No, really.
Whether you have loads of experience or absolutely none, it doesn't matter to me. When you're booking me, you're coming to see me as a professional. I'm the one who needs to know what I'm doing — you're the one who's meant to relax and enjoy yourself.
In fact, I've had plenty of people book specifically because they want to learn, gain confidence or simply have someone show them what they enjoy. So being amazing in bed is absolutely not a requirement.
2. Size doesnt matter (as much as you think)
It's a cliché for a reason.
I can't tell you how often a man has asked me whether he's too big or too small. I know it can feel incredibly important to the man in question, but I can promise you that, professionally speaking, it really isn't as important as you probably think.
There are exceptions, of course, particularly at either extreme. And just to be clear, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being particularly small or particularly well-endowed. It simply means that I may need to approach certain things a little differently.
3. You dont have to impress me
Just be yourself, be polite and respectful, and above all, be clean. Honestly, that's a pretty good starting point.
You don't need to arrive with a rehearsed personality, a list of clever conversation starters and a carefully planned idea of how you're supposed to behave.
You don't have to perform for me. Just relax and be yourself.
4.Tell me what you're actually looking for
Communication, gents. It really is that simple.
If you're seeing me for the first time, I have no idea what your preferences are, what you're comfortable with or what you're hoping to get from our time together.
So please, be upfront about your expectations. That gives me the opportunity to understand what you're looking for and make sure I'm able to accommodate your needs.
I actually prefer having a good idea of what you want ahead of time. It means I can think about how to make the most of the time we have together rather than trying to figure everything out once you've arrived.
5. Dont overthink it
Everyone has different needs, and everyone has different reasons for choosing to spend time with me.
My advice?
Don't overthink it.
Ask your questions, communicate what you need to communicate, and then leave all the worrying at the door. Allow yourself to actually enjoy the experience.
After all, it's not only your money you're spending. It's your time — and your time is always more valuable.
Still have questions?If there's something you're unsure about, you're always welcome to get in touch. I'd much rather you ask than sit worrying about whether you're supposed to know something already.
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